Monday, September 24, 2007

Who ya gonna call... ghostbusters

Snappy title, huh. I will get to that in a minute but I want to let you all know my mom is doing very well!!! They did find in her knee surgery that her meniscus was twisted and pushed up into her knee socket basically. The doctor came out and said, " she is one tough old bird for walking around with that". She is one tough... young.... bird. hehe. I unfortunately couldn't be there for her like I wanted to. I took her to the surgery and stayed until she went to recovery. My dad was able to be there and I was having this strange abdominal pain, partly felt like a pulled muscle or hernia, the other was a cramping pain. I was hoping it would pass, but then after talking to my husband who says, shawndra you have to get that checked out, I called my doctors and got in to see my surgeons partner who took a brief look at my abdomen and said, I don't see anything. You could have strained something, ugh! First of all, I never know which doctor to call, hence the title. Do I call my surgeon, oncologist, ob/gyn, GI doc, psychologist (joke), who is going to take care of this problem? And it always seems if I call one, they pun me off to another, "oh, I think you need to call so and so about that". Ugh, I am a nurse practitioner for goodness sakes and I can't figure it out. How do older people who aren't in the field figure this out, that's just it, they don't and they fall through the cracks!! I am telling you, this is a full time job, just taking care of myself, between all the phone calls, schedule, doctors appointments, bills (which Doug's dad helps us organize thankfully!!! Thank you Steve!) It is a full time job!!!!
Anyway, the pains are gone thankfully but I forgot to tell them I have been swollen for over a week on the left side of my abdomen. I am my own soap opera. That is why some of you read this, it is like a soap opera. Before all this, my life was plain and boring, now it is constantly something. It is actually embarrassing. anyway, but my dad took care of my mom all weekend, I think she is like me, I kept asking if I could help, she kept saying, no I am fine. Now I know where I get it, thanks mom!
On a very sad note, Friday my Uncle passed away from cancer. This is my father's brother who fought a long time with prostate cancer. I saw him in July during our family reunion at his farm. He was weak at that time and we all feared it was coming. The positive side is he is not suffering any longer and he is in a wonderful place. He is, once again, the strong, tough as nails, buffalo farmer I remember him as. Tomorrow is the service for him. I pray for the whole family, his dear wife, 3 children and his grandchildren as well as his brothers and sister who are all grieving immensely. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. He was an amazing man and is now home.
Good night everyone!

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Dear Shawndra,
You struck a chord (of perhaps some guilt) with me when you said the reason some of us read this is that it is a soap opera. I suppose that is true. I hope that is not hurtful to you, and I didn't know you were a nurse practitioner! I work in a hospital as a social worker. I think sometimes about the enormously complicated world we live in and I too wonder how older people can possibly negotiate the systems (obstacles) we have in place. I appreciate your honesty and compassion. Joyce

Kelley said...

I am so happy to hear that your Mom is doing well, we knew she was a tough bird. Tell your Dad too we will be saying a prayer for him and the family as you all go through this loss, it is a tough process, but he too is a tough bird! You never stood a chance of being anything other than tough. The issue on older people is SOOO true. There is so much "jumping through hoops" that I amd sure that many just give up trying to figure it out and then miss out on the benefits they have rightfully earned. Then there's that soap opera life you are leading....maybe so, but it is an inspiration to so many that maybe we should reclassify to online therapy? Dr. Shawndra, sounds kinda fun. Take care of yourself, Mom and Dad and I look forward to your next post. Oh, no word on how the new treatment went for you.

Anonymous said...

Dear Shawndra,

I have been reading your blog for a few weeks now, but this is my first comment. I found my way here through Heather's blog. I'm glad that I did too. I never thought of your blog as a soap opera, but I guess all of our lives are in one way or the other.

I just wanted to say hello and tell you that I'm praying for you and your family.

Hugs,

Carol

justme519 said...

Your not a soap opera, just a really busy lady. Your plate is so full. I want you to know that I continue to pray for you and your family. You all are going through so much. I know it's said that we're only given as much as we can handle but it makes you wonder sometimes. Stay strong.
Sent with a gentle cyber-hug!!!
Tanya